Conservative Evangelicals Are Going To Lose the War On Gay Marriage, and That's Okay

I don’t want to pretend I know all the variables in the gay marriage debate: the enormity of politics, the clamoring of personal rights, the thumping of the Bible to exemplify proper marriage, and the youthful vigor reverberating  among social media of oneness and #LoveWins.  I can’t place myself in the shoes of someone who has deep love for another individual, yet is told their relationship cannot be classified as a marriage.  I can’t dictate every scripture relating to homosexuality and it’s sinfulness.  

One thing I can do is something I don’t see a lot of other Christians doing, and that’s taking a collective breath, stepping back, and trying to gauge a basic question: will the legalization of gay marriage make much of a difference?

Perhaps a better way to put it is to ask if continuing to reject the notion of gay marriage through legal channels really glorifies Christ, and does it also shine His light into the hearts of homosexuals?

I don’t write this to make a statement; more so to simply say I don’t know.

My opposition to gay marriage has always been twofold.  First, I believe homosexuality to be a sin, something that negates God’s design and clearly defined gender roles.  This viewpoint is taken from both Old and New Testament, and to me personally isn’t even very debatable.

My other view is the can of worms theory.  One that if you legalize any marriage other than one man and one woman, you yield way to any type of long-term union to be recognized simply because people want it.  Polygamy, child marriage, etc.  

But as a Christian, I also wonder if raising our banner against the rights of a group of people in the name of governmental policy creates the type of effect that the Great Commission requires of us?

I think back to the story of Jesus when the Pharisees brought to Him a woman caught in the midst of adultery.  The law at the time commanded the woman be stoned, but Jesus quickly reminded them of their own sins, and that only those without sin should cast stones.

Can that be our stance?  That we acknowledge not just sins of others, but even more greatly our own sin?  

Gay marriage will be legalized, in all 50 states.  Maybe not right now, but someday.  It’s inevitable.  How we as Christians respond can have tremendous positive (or negative) effect.  Should we be known for picketing outside the courthouse or by inviting those we see as sinful into our homes for dinner?  

Don’t read my post as an urging to support gay marriage; more so read it as someone who’s getting tired of Christians constantly attempting to utilize government to instill values on people in hopes of changing their hearts.  It won’t happen that way.

The story of Jesus and the adulterous woman has a beautiful ending.  He looks at her and said “Neither do I condemn you.  Go now and leave your life of sin.”  (John 8:11)

The Supreme Court of any nation will not overrule the supremacy of God.  He is sovereign, and nothing catches Him by surprise.  Gay marriage doesn’t.  Sin doesn’t.  And sadly enough, the church failing in it’s task to truly love one another doesn’t.

I pray we are known as the church that loved others so deeply they turned from their sin.  I pray we are known as the church that loved others so deeply we are convicted and repentant of our own sin.