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Telling Your Kids "I Love You" Isn't Enough

There's no trophy for good manners. There's no certificate for cleaning the bathroom. There's no pizza parties or cupcakes for being disciplined to not bite your nails. But when our kids hear that we're proud of them for what might be viewed by others as tiny accomplishments, it only motivates them to continue down that path. 

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A History of Losing

I stepped to the line with the weight of Drexel (my town's and team's name) on my shoulders. There must have been at least four dozen people in the stands watching in tense silence. It was so quiet you could almost hear my coach roll his eyes at the fact that I was the one taking the last shot.

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A Tribute to the Class of '99

The 18th Anniversary of anything doesn’t seem significant. But if you perform the math correctly, this summer all of us who graduated in 1999 will have, more or less, spent more time out of “childhood” than in it. More time out of being “school age” than being in it. More time as true adults instead of just minors.

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The Walk Away Dads

 Art Alexakis couldn't have known his personal darkness would turn into rock music gold. He couldn't have known telling the all-too-common tale of absentee fatherhood would net him a hit single.

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Relating to Judd Apatow's Story of "Love"

Love is inaccessible in the way that you can't figure out how Mickey and Gus will eventually fit together. They're common with their oddities (which make their characters enjoyable), but different enough in their interests that this seems to be a love story doomed for failure. But do you ever remember a Judd Apatow story not ending on a good note?

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Saga of a Girly Dad

Not long after the giggles from tickles are done, my wife looks at me and tosses me the oddest of compliments: “Eddie, you’re such a good girly dad.”

As a red-blooded, steak eating, sports loving American man, I took offense to her statement initially. After all, as men we’re taught being “girly” in any sense is an affront to manhood.

But my wife wasn’t referring to my masculinity: she was talking about how my fathering was great at adapting to the wants and needs of my daughters.

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Growing Older is a Gift, Not a Curse

Those were the best days of my life,” sings Bryan Adams in his song, “Summer of ’69.”

The nostalgia of the song is found in a man’s reflection on his past; more specifically his high school years—a time of garage bands, young love and freedom. But if you can peel yourself away for a moment from your own personal strolls down memory lane that the song may bring up, ask yourself this question: were whatever days you are thinking of really the best days of your life?

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5 Things You Should Never Say To Your Spouse

It doesn’t take long to realize this old saying is a big fat lie. While the sticks and stones certainly hurt us physically, words can cut like knives into us mentally and emotionally. This is especially true of our spouses.

There are any number of things you shouldn’t say to your spouse, but here are five things you may definitely want to reconsider saying before you do so.

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